Reach Out! Family and Carers Support Group
Brought to you by Leo, Our Friends, Family and Carers Lead
In my experience one of the most important questions for any mental health team when offering care and support to a person who suffers from any form of mental health issue is “Do they have any form of support from family, friends and carers…”, and if the answer is “Yes”, our job is made much, much easier.
For family, friends and carers dealing with a loved one’s mental health it’s an often thankless, frustrating and at times heartbreaking job. We do it anyway, regardless of the issues we have to deal with. We all have our own issues, we have to work, tend to other, often mundane daily tasks plus we have our own pressing matters, concerns and mental well-being to be aware of. Then we have to deal with our loved one. It’s hard, like juggling jelly, and it can, on occasion, take its toll. For some, family, friend or carer support is something unheard of. Sometimes we just aren’t aware that they are services out there, or sometimes we’re just too proud, “I can deal with it…” et cetera. Or maybe we’re simply embarrassed about the predicament we’re in. But why struggle when there is help waiting for you to contact them?
From my own experience, dealing with a family members mental health concern is a worry at best, and devastating at worst. The dreaded early signs of relapse, the alarming phone calls, concerns in their community, maybe dealing with the police, or money concerns, occasionally drug misuse issues, the hospital admissions and often upsetting visits, the list of worries is endless. And if the person has good support, from anyone, fantastic. But who supports the supporters?
Initially the group will be online using ‘Microsoft Teams’ but, once Covid-19 issues and restrictions have eased and we return to our ‘normal’ daily activities, we aim to meet in an accommodating café somewhere in Wakefield town centre to meet, chat , drink tea/coffee, eat biscuits and chat to each other about what’s going on. No topics will be off limits, however all we ask is that we must always be aware of other peoples sensitivities, issues, concerns and needs and maintain respect for one another at all times.
The Wakefield Recovery and Wellbeing College offer support to all types of people, from any background, both service users, family, friends and carers, but we feel that we need to offer a dedicated support service to those people who often have to carry the load and deal with so much, on their own. So, once a month, we’re going to open up and let you, the family member, the friend or the carer get things off your chest, speak to other people who have the same issues and concerns, maybe help you tap into other services that can offer help, but mainly, simply, offer support to the supporters. It sounds simple enough, but I’m sure it won’t be. Supporting someone with mental health concerns can be hard, but at our group we want to listen, share experiences, maybe laugh occasionally, and get things you’re dealing with inside, outside.
“Life doesn’t make any sense without interdependence. We need each other, and the sooner we learn that, the better for us all.”
Erik Homburger Erikson (Harvard Professor/ Noted Psychologist)
There will be family and support group updates on the Recovery College website, the Facebook, Twitter and Instagram pages and the weekly newsletter so if you’d like to join, get involved or help out, then get in touch. And, because this will be a rolling group, you can join the group at any time, leave at any time if it’s not for you and you won’t (for the moment) even need to enrol! The group will happen every four weeks, with the first meeting on Thursday 15 April 2021, 2pm-3pm. If you are interested in attending, just give the college a call or drop us an email to express your interest. We will then provide you with the joining link for the Microsoft Teams sessions.
The next meeting is on: Thursday 5 August 2021, 2pm-3pm.
Find out more about what’s available to carers locally…
Carers Wakefield & District
Carers Wakefield & District offer free and confidential information and support to adult and young adult carers (people over the age of 18) living in the Wakefield Council area.
Carers Wakefield & District run the following Support Groups for carers. These groups are not running at the moment due to the current situation with Covid-19, however plans are in place to open them up again in the coming months. If you are interested in attending one of these groups, then please telephone Carers Wakefield on 01924 305544 to provide your details and they will contact you to let you know when the group restarts.
- Ackworth Carers Group, Ackworth Library, Bell Lane, Ackworth, WF7 7JH. Meets 3rd Friday of every month, 1.30pm – 3.30pm.
- BAME Ladies Carers Group, Carers Wakefield & District, 25 King Street, WF1 2SR. Meets last Tuesday of every month, 10am – 12pm.
- Care Home Carers Support Group, Morrisons, Dewsbury Road, Wakefield, WF2 9BY. Meets 4th Monday of every month, 10.30am – 12.30pm.
- Ferrybridge & Knottingley Carers Group, Kellingley Social Club, 25 Marine Villa Road, Knottingley, WF11 8ER. Meets last Wednesday of every month, 10am-12pm.
- Hemsworth & SESKU Carers Group, Hemsworth Methodist Church, Barnsley Road, Hemsworth. Meets the 1st Thursday of every month, 12.30pm – 2.30pm.
- Men’s Group, Location varies from month to month. Meets 4th Friday of every month, 12.30pm – 2.30pm.
- Mental Health Carers Group, Carers Wakefield & District, 25 King Street, Wakefield, WF1 2SR. Meets 1st Tuesday of every month, 10.30am – 12.30pm.
- Outwood Carers Group, Bevin Community Centre, Bevin Close, Outwood. Meets 2nd Thursday of every month, 11am – 1pm.
- Pontefract & Castleford Carers Group, Baileygate Court Sheltered Housing Complex, The Maltings, Pontefract, WF8 1HQ. Meets 2nd Tuesday of every month, 10.30am – 12pm.
- Wakefield Carers Group, Quaker Meeting House, Thornhill Street, Wakefield, WF1 1NQ. Meets last Thursday of every month, 10.30am – 12pm.
- Working Carers Group, Sainsburys Café, Trinity Walk, Wakefield. Meets 1st Thursday of every month, 5.30pm – 7pm.
- Young Adult Carers Group (Age 17-25), Locations and activities vary from month to month. Usually meet on a Thursday evening and day trips are arranged out of term time.
Visit their website
In addition to the Carers Wakefield & District Young Carers Support Group above, the Young Carers Support App, launched on Young Carers Action Day 2021, is a one-stop shop for young carers in West Yorkshire and Harrogate with advice and information on relationships, education, your health and more.
You can download the app from:
The App Store (for Apple)
Google Play (for Android)
For more information, please visit the West Yorkshire and Harrogate Partnership website.
The Carers Trust aims to support unpaid carers to live their lives. Check out their website for information about support in your local area, national support, resources and information on anything from wellbeing and getting a break to benefit support and young carers.
Supporting someone with suicidal thoughts and feelings
MIND and Rethink Mental Illness have produced these useful resources on supporting people with suicidal thoughts and feelings.
suicidal-thoughts-how-to-support-someone-factsheet (1) (PDF, 599 KB) support-someone-who-feels-suicidal-2017 (PDF, 596 KB)
The Horizon Plan
Information for parents/guardians around supporting a self-harming young person from The Horizon Plan.